You Just Don’t Go There

Since I have been writing recently about divorce, I thought I would shift gears with this post and address one way to prevent problems that can lead to divorce.

It really broke my heart. I hung up the phone and hung my head. Why? How could he have done it?-my brother, my fellow-preacher, my friend leaving his family? The explanation sounded all too familiar. It involved the internet, a clandestine meeting and ultimately, betrayal.  Another Christian family victimized by the lies of the deceiver.


He certainly knows his business well. It can all begin so innocently. Very few ever really plan to create a legacy of hurt. But Satan exploits whatever chances he gets to the utmost. Just peek in the crack of his door and if you are not extremely careful he will lead you into the room. This is the very reason Scripture instructs us not to give the devil a “foothold” (Ephesians 4:27). With him, you just don’t go there.


You just don’t flirt back with the attractive person flirting with you if there is a band of commitment on the ring finger of your left hand. It is not simply innocent fun and you just don’t go there.


You just don’t open that first page or click on that first button to expose yourself to questionable and spiritually harmful images. There is a sharp hook behind this bait. You just don’t go there.


You just don’t go into that internet chat room and allow yourself to be drawn into this world of deception. You just don’t go there.


You stay away from the questionable movie, the song with the degrading lyrics, the people who promote ungodliness. You just don’t go there.


“There” is where Satan tells his lies, baits his snares and does his damage. “There” is where families are ruined, lives are destroyed and souls are lost. But don’t just believe me. Consider what James through the Spirit of God said:


But each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.” (James 1:14-15)


We simply cannot afford to allow temptation to drag us by our desires to a date with sin which, if we keep company with long enough, will destroy us. We just don’t ever go there in the first place.


We rely on God’s wisdom and “avoid every kind of evil.” (1st Thessalonians 4:22) We pray to our Father to “lead us not into temptation.” (Matthew 6:13) We faithfully “resist the devil” so he will “flee” from us. (James 4:7)


Remember the door.  When Satan knocks at ours we simply refuse to open it- period- not even for a peek.  We just don’t even go there.




11 Responses to You Just Don’t Go There

  1. J D says:

    AWESOME POST, Danny … if we could all just have such common sense when caught up in the storm of temptation. Through God’s Spirit we can!

  2. bobbyvalentine says:

    I agree with the post … but what if you didn’t take a peek? or flirt?? I agree flee, slam the door in his face, don’t even crack the door … will he find a way in through the air vent??

    Bobby Valentine

    C-ya at Pepperdine. I head out on Sunday.

  3. dannydodd says:

    Thanks guys.

    Bobby, good take on this- Satan will come through the vent on us. He is relentless- which is why we always need to armoured up! Looking foward to seeing you at the Dine!

  4. AMEN! Why I was younger, a preacher once told me that anyone but in the right place with the right set of circumstances was capable of doing anything…I told him he was crazy…there were some things I’d NEVER be tempted to do, but as i grow older, I realize that Satan has a way of getting into your heart and life in ways that you would NEVER expect and he can have a grip on you before you even realize it. Thank the Lord, He has protected me from myself so often and opened my eyes BEFORE I jumped off the cliff.

    See you at Pepperdine!

  5. Adam G. says:

    Good advice.

    Of course, the tempation isn’t always of a sexual nature.

  6. Dee Andrews says:

    Danny –

    I’ve read through your latest posts and have been blessed. I, too, was divorced and it was really terrible for me because of how the church was where I was a member at the time. It’s been a long time ago now and Tom and I have been very happily married for 17 years, but it still hurts terribly when I think about it.

    Your posts and the comments have been very comforting.



  7. Excellent post! Thanks for the reminders. This is helpful.

  8. That Girl says:

    My husband got involved in a friendship with a girl that worked next door to one of his stores. He said that by the time “it” had happened, it just didn’t seem like that big of a deal. I always kinda thought it WAS a big deal. 🙂

  9. TLC says:

    Oh, Amen to this. My ex-husband was addicted to pornography and masturbation, and didn’t think it was a problem that he needed to deal with. 10 years later, he still hasn’t. Now that I’m a Christian, I believe that “cybercheating,” whether it’s on a porn site or in a chat room, is the same as cheating on your spouse.

  10. Alana Morrissy says:

    Our family left a church of Christ after my daughter went on a youth trip and it turned out the only female chaperone left the group as soon as they arrived a ttheir destination, leaving the three teen girls and several little much younger boys in an empty church building to spend the night with the three men on the trip without their wives. It was an elders’ s wife who left the group.

    They neglected to tell the parents this was going to happen both before they left or after they returned. We found out from our daughter after they got back. Aparenlty no one else had a problem with this. We asked for new firm posted youth trip policies and the elders declined saying they didn’t need printed policies- they would rely on verbal policies.

    Our family was basically shunned and at the next congregation where we went were not welcome, as ‘rumors’ about our family and my daughter had been spread by the leadership of the previous congregation.

    I think what galled our family the most was that their youth minister and his wife continued to pursue our daughter, trying to get her back into their congregation- this went on for almost two years. One of the kids in that youth group repeatedly tried to get my child to come back. All of this was done on her bhalf- the rest of our fmaily- the adults- were not pursued to come back nor even spoken to after that. Basically they tried to separate our family from one another.

    Rumors were spread around about our family- how I was ‘so mean and cruel ‘ to my daughter, and that I was an unfaithful Christian and only a sporadic church attender-boosting people’s efforts to separate her from our family.

    Ironically the elder who sent his wife away on the trip never apologized to anyone, not the kids, not the parents, not the congregation, for his part of this. We never made any accusations at all, but were upset that we were not informed before the trip , about the facts of the trip. We were also very upset that an elder would out himself in and tow younger men, including the youth minister, insuch a position with the three adolescent girls overnight.

    all of this totally went agains twhat i had been taught about avoiding the appearance of evil and operating in secret…all of my life.

    It is almost three years later. the adults in our family are still basically shunned, that is , no one from that congregation has anything to do with us.the girl from the youth minstry still is friend swith my choild and still communicates to my child that I am unworthy as a parent, and that I just ‘don’t like’ her, (the friend).

    We hope to move away soon.

    this has been a total nightmare for our family and we have zero, zilch, no- emotional support or spiritual support form anyone in the church. No One.We are supposed to continue being treated as lepers and my duaghter apparently is to be lured out of our horrible and ungodly family. Who did we think we wer, criticising something ‘the church’ did?

    Thanks for letting me vent form here in the COC no-mans land.

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